Wednesday, December 18, at 7:30 pm
We are all carrying something that feels heavy. Even in a festive season like the time leading up to Christmas, we carry the weight of grief or worry or fear. Join us for a special worship service the week before Christmas that will provide a space of hope and healing for anyone who is grieving the death of a loved one, trying to make sense of a difficult relationship, or struggling to stay spiritually grounded in our crazy world. The service will include prayers, time for reflection, and music, including portions of the beautiful Holden Evening Prayer setting. There will be an optional opportunity for individual prayer and anointing with Pastor Christa at the end of the service.
5:00 pm – Worship with Youth Ensemble and Kids’ Choir
10:00 pm – Candlelight Service with Adult Choir and Violin
“Now he is God not of the dead, but of the living; for to him all of them are alive.” Luke 20:38
Dennis Volstad of Ripon, Wisconsin, had a surprise for the people who came to his funeral. A short time after that funeral, each of those in attendance received an unexpected letter from Dennis’ attorney. [i] It seems that Dennis, a quiet man who owned the local dry cleaner, had amassed something of a small fortune during his life. In his will he left this provision: The sum of $500,000 was to be divided equally among the people who attended his funeral. 270 people had shown up, so each of them received $1851.
That gift of money came as a complete shock to the people who were at the funeral. And while it’s not a vast sum, I wonder what it made possible for the people who received it. A trip they’d wanted to take? The payment of a bill they were really worried about? A doctor’s visit they’d been putting off?
Don Jorgenson was the executor of the estate, and he mentioned a detail that I found both beautiful and heartbreaking. Among Dennis’ papers, Don found Dennis’ New Year’s resolutions. They were: (1) Live a life that is pleasing to God and (2) Find true friends – and not be lonely.
I love the idea of Dennis’ generosity breaking into people’s lives from beyond the grave in ways that they never expected. I’m also haunted by his loneliness in this life – and the missed opportunities to have the kind of relationships he longed for.
The reporter who shared the piece closed with this reminder: “Although a funeral is an important time to show someone you care, there is one time better – sooner.”
Dennis’ story gets at a question that arises from today’s gospel. What does life after death have to do with life now?
The Sadducees come to Jesus with a ridiculous question. They set up a hypothetical situation based on a practice called levirate marriage, in which the brother of a deceased man was obligated to marry his brother’s widow. There’s some scholarly debate about how widespread this practice actually was, but to the extent that it existed, it did serve as a kind of protection and economic support for widows. As we’ve discussed before, widows in the ancient world would otherwise have had few practical or financial resources for survival.
But the Sadducees spin out a wild scenario – a woman who is married off not just once to her dead husband’s brother, but again and again and again as one after another, her husbands die. By the time the seventh one kicks the bucket in this bizarre tale, the Sadducees get to their question: “In the resurrection…whose wife will the woman be?”
The Sadducees are a group of religious leaders who, unlike their counterparts the Pharisees, do not believe in resurrection. Which begs the question: Why are they even asking Jesus about this if they don’t believe in resurrection? It seems clear that they are trying to get Jesus to say something controversial on the record.
And what does Jesus say? First, he says that resurrection is real. He doesn’t give us many details about what that time looks like, but he speaks with the assumption that it exists.
Jesus also says in his own way that our categories in this life are limited. They have their place, but they have their limits. If you’re single, be single. If you’re married, be married. Both can be sacred paths. But we do not know what those paths look like beyond death. That might be unsettling, but it’s a reminder that our human imagination is limited when it comes to what God makes possible. The best we can do is imagine resurrection as the best version of this life, but God’s imagination is so much bigger and bolder than our own.
Think about the woman in the situation that the Sadducees describe. Thankfully she seems to be hypothetical, but imagine if she were real, and she happened to be there listening what Jesus says to the Sadducees. Jesus would be saying that in the next life she would be free of the human laws and traditions that had so confined her in this life. No more being passed from one man to the next regardless of what she wanted. No more being defined by whether or not she’d given birth to children. No more fear about her economic insecurity. To that woman Jesus’ words would have sounded like blessed freedom.
So much about life after death is unknown to us, but here’s what Jesus tells us to trust. It is in God’s hands. God is the God of the living, and to God all of us are alive, even those who have already died. And God desires something more for all of us, something far beyond what this life offers.
Here’s the challenge for us today. If we follow a God who is a God of the living, how do we make sure that all people have a chance at living fully before they die? If God is about resurrection, how might we be about life breaking into death on this side of the grave? We do it by making sure that people like Dennis don’t feel lonely in this life. We make sure that no one goes hungry in this life. We care for the planet that has been entrusted to us in this life. We provide medical care for people’s minds and bodies in this life – including for our veterans who have faithfully served this country. We honor the inherent dignity of each human being in this life.
Today we celebrate the sacrament of Holy Baptism for Breana. We remember that in baptism we are joined to the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, and that nothing can ever change that. Breana belongs to God. No matter what other identities she holds in this life – spouse, parent, friend, whatever profession she might choose, whatever artistic or athletic endeavors she might pursue – she will always be a child of God first and foremost. Today we pray that God’s promises to us in baptism shape the promises we make to the people around us in this life.
I’ve been reading a new memoir by Sister Helen Prejean.[ii] She’s the nun who served as a spiritual advisor to death row inmates and became a fierce advocate against the death penalty. The movie Dead Man Walking is based on her work.
At one point very early in Sister Helen’s training she writes a paper in which she explores what it really means to live one’s faith. It leads her to ponder questions of Jesus’ resurrection from the dead. She knows that resurrection is at the core of the Christian faith, but she asks: “What does that mean?”
Maybe the mystery of life coming from death is not only about end-of-life-on-earth death but also part of our ordinary experiences of loving and losing, of feeling our life is taking shape, getting purpose, drive, zing, only to plummet, sometimes, into confusion, darkness, and despair. Soar and plummet, soar and plummet…What does it all mean?…Whom do I love?…Who really loves me?…Time is running out.
Eventually Sister Helen says this: “We’re talking resurrection? Meaning life after death? What about life before death?”
So what about life before death? The God of the living calls us to live and to love in such a way that all people might know life abundantly.
Resurrection begins now. Amen.
S.D.G. – The Rev. Dr. Christa M. Compton, Gloria Dei Lutheran Church, Chatham, NJ